Forgiveness is Powerful

Forgiveness… Something that, for me, seems to be very tricky. But in the past week God has been trying to get me to learn how to forgive not only others but myself as well. Forgiving others comes fairly naturally for me. Forgiving myself not so much. I have a bad habit of holding onto things and that never ends well.

Last year I dated this guy. He wasn’t good for me and I made a lot of bad choices. Over the past year I have done everything in my power to become the person I was made to be. There are only two things in my way.

1. I haven’t forgiven myself

2. I haven’t forgiven him.

This year I am living my best year yet, except for those two things. I thought that I would be fine since this guy moved but then COVID-19 happened. Now we work together almost everyday and I have to see him. I don’t know about anyone else but it is very hard to work with someone and be nice to them when you haven’t forgiven them. It’s even harder to forgive them when I haven’t forgiven myself. I still consider myself a bad person anytime I mess up or get something wrong. I hold myself to unreasonably high expectations and when I don’t meet my own standards I feel a great deal of guilt.

So this week God has been nudging me (AKA smacking me upside the head) to forgive not only him but myself too. So that is my challenge to everyone. If you are not forgiving someone for something that happened I ask that you consider it. Forgiveness is a way to get rid of a lot of anger and hate. It is very freeing. After you have done this you can really begin to live the life you love.

Remember, Every little thing is gonna be okaye.

10 thoughts on “Forgiveness is Powerful

  1. Forgiveness is sooooo hard! It is a skill we need to work on continually. You recognize this and are working toward it, and that is the first step. Keep working and it will be okay. šŸ™‚


  2. Forgiving is so hard. I have a quote (and I can’t remember who said it) that helps me: “Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could be any different.” Maybe it can help you as well.


  3. I am having trouble forgiving a family member for some things she said to me, and I am having trouble forgiving myself for the parts of what she said that are true. Before I read your post, I realized that I needed to forgive this family member, but perhaps the other issue is that I haven’t forgiven myself. I’m going to ponder that today. Thank you.


  4. Forgiveness is a day-by-day thing sometimes and is one of the very hardest things. Grace for the days when it’s toughest. Thanks for sharing this reminder to keep trying.


  5. I remember hearing, “Forgiveness is another way to say, ‘thank you for giving us the chance to grow from our mistakes.” Forgive = for give.
    Thank you for a great reminder laced with an important story.


  6. Forgiveness is necessary to hold the heart together. Self-compassion is a term I learned a few years ago. It is so powerful. Cheers to you for having the strength to forgive and move on.


  7. Forgiveness is incredibly hard, and learning to lean into those feelings are so important. They are important to understanding what makes us hold onto the grief, negative energy, sadness, disappointment. As you feel the nudge to forgive, continue to be kind to yourself.


  8. Forgiveness is hard. But I agree, it’s super powerful, and essential even. You are in my prayers. Your courage, humor, and tag line “Remember, Every little thing is gonna be okaye.” bring me hope! Thank you.


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