Phones, what the world calls communication devices, what I call consumption devices. They are great things to have if you need quick contact with someone. But they have become very hindering as well. I have noticed that phones consume everything and everyone in their path. Similar to tornadoes. They suck everything into their endless cloud of nothing. The same is with technology. If we aren’t watching the time we are on them, we often times become consumed.
Social media… one way that we lose track of who we really are. Sometimes we see others lives and we look at ours and think that their are better. They aren’t. My life is can not be compared to yours and yours can not be compared to your neighbors life. Everyone’s life is different and the more time we spend scrolling through social media and others lives the less we think of ourselves.
Not everything about phones is bad. I have found that in this uncertain time, I have been calling and texting my friends more than I did before. It’s the only way we can. But if I sit on my phone talking for hours it takes away the connection. It loses its meaning.
Screens seem to be a common go-to when people are bored. I have found that at work if I get bored I send a text to mom instead of just talking to my coworkers. I also watched a friend of mine pull out their phone while my grandma and I had a conversation about crocheting. Instead of talking with my grandma, my friend let themself be consumed by their phone.
So my reminder to you today, is that you just take a few minutes away from your phones or computers this week. Step outside. Walk the dog (or the cat because I guess that’s a thing), get in the garden, grab a book and just sit on a swing or blanket. Take your family with you. Eat a meal outside. Play a game. The list is endless. You may be surprised by what the outcome may be.
Sometimes we just have to do things we don’t want to do. That’s just a fact. It could be doing laundry, or homework for school, or ending a friendship. None of these things are ever fun. (at least I don’t think so.) There are many things that we probably don’t want to do. I have found they they are usually the things I NEED to do. God has a way of nudging me (although it sometimes feels like a smack across the head) when I choose not to do something I know I should do.
For a long time God was telling me to end a friendship with someone who really wasn’t that great for me. My friend made me be fake and if I wasn’t they weren’t my friend. I ignored God for YEARS! Each time he mentioned something I would feel more and more convicted. It’s the same for schoolwork. I know I should do my homework and there were a few times when I would rather sit on the couch and read a book with a hot cup of tea next to me. As a result my grades began to drop along with my GPA. Everything we choose not to do has a consequence. It could be conviction or a lower GPA or being naked the next day because you didn’t do laundry.
It’s not enough to just do it. We need to have a good attitude about it too. This, I have found, is MUCH easier said than done. There are days I go to work and I REALLY REALLY don’t want to, but I do it anyway. On the days when I go into work grouchy or reluctantly, they usually don’t go very well. Its usually stressful or frustrating. On the days when I go in telling myself it will be a good day it usually is.
So my advice to my fans (aka readers) it whatever you do, do it with a good attitude. It makes the day much better. Think of it as rainstorms. If you have a bad attitude it’s like a dark gloomy thunderstorm. BUT if you have a good day it is like those days when its sunny and warm and you can see a rainbow. If given the option you should always choose a good attitude.
Have you ever picked a dandelion and within a few days it dies? Well I was on a walk yesterday and I picked a flower from the side of the road. The person I was walking at me looked at me and said “You killed it!” However the flower isn’t the only thing I killed that day.
I killed something else yesterday. I killed my double life. I have found myself falling back into old habits and living one way while saying that I was living another. When I do this I lie and manipulate to get my way. It’s a terrible way to live. So I made a choice. I am going to stop hiding things and being afraid of what others will think, and live the one life I am given because God doesn’t make mistakes and if I am here, I am here because God has a great plan for my life. How am I supposed to fulfill God’s plan, if I am doing exactly what God tells us not to do.
So I decided to kill it.
I killed that double life and now I can live my life the way God wants me to, instead of letting fear dictate my life. The thing about a dandelion is that when you pull, it unless you get all the roots with it, it won’t die. It will just re-sprout back in place.
I encourage anyone who is holding onto something negative, kill it. Pull the roots up. Let go of it. Live the life God wants you to live.
As spring arrives so does transformation. Spring brings beauty and everyone loves beautiful things. But beauty isn’t always about what it looks like on the outside. Yes I know that is a cliche thing to say but it’s true. The beauty is often found in the transition from “ugly” to beautiful. Take winter and spring for example. Winter (when there is no snow) is brown and ugly because everything is dead, but as spring arrives we start to see plants bloom and animals come out (even pesky mosquitoes). I believe that the transformation is often the most beautiful part. I have had my own share of transformations as I am sure many of us have.
I was adopted at a young age. I am much older now and have lived with my family for 12+ years, but I am STILL transforming. Everyday I wake up and I face 100 fears. I constantly tell myself truths instead of lies to become the person I know I am meant to be. I fight to transform into a better version of myself. I find that it is all the times I have messed p and fallen down that make me beautiful. Another example of the beauty in transformation would be the seniors of 2020. Their school year has been cut short and many things take from them. While I feel sorry for them I choose to look at it this way. Students have more time now to work (if they have a job), pick up old (or new) hobbies, or simply spend time or reconnect with family.
There is so much beauty to be found in this world of “ugly” one must simply look for it. Or as Albus Dumbledore would say “Happiness can be found even in the darkest of times, when one only remembers to turn on the light.” So I encourage everyone to start looking at things a little differently and “turn on the light”.
At some point in your life someone has probably told you everything is going to be okay. It could be a friend saying this after you failed a test or a pastor after you explain whatever was on your heart at the time. But I am sure that you have felt like its not okay. Well…. I am here to tell you that it is. I have experienced what it feels like to not be okay. It’s not a fun feeling. But sometimes you have to deal with the not fun stuff to get to the super fun stuff. Through this blog I will be sharing personal experiences in hopes that it gives you, as a reader, hope. I will be sharing my own stories of how many time I felt like things weren’t okay and the people I had to lean on to help me through it. My goal is to show you that there is always a light at the end of the dark tunnel and that it’s okay to lean on others for help when life feels out of control.
Or… If you feel like everything is better than okay right now I will also be sharing stories from the great stuff that has happened after the not fun stuff. I want you guys to know that it is also okay to feel joyful to be through that hard thing. I hope that through my writing I can spread a little light to the world.